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If there comes a time in a marriage when one of the partners realizes that heterosexual feelings are absent or have faded over time, it is important to hold on to the adage “Don’t forget me.” The message is simple but essential: You are not alone!
This realization does not mean that “being married” suddenly becomes secondary. On the contrary, the relationship requires even more attention, care, love, and loyalty at that very moment. And both sexuality and intimacy remain important elements for both partners. The challenge is to find a way forward together, with honesty and mutual respect.
It's a pledged vow that compels answers to:
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What is the foundation of a marriage?
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Choices vs. feelings, love vs. commitment. What do you consider essential, and are you willing to fight for it?
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What is love, really? And what does love ask of us?
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Can SSA feelings, faith, and the church coexist?
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Why do some married couples choose to stay together?
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What does a marriage in which one partner experiences SSA mean for the heterosexual partner?
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Is our thinking primarily determined by “my self and my preferences”?
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Is there a deeper purpose that gives direction to our lives, love, and marriage?
It involves navigating through exceptionally turbulent feelings and emotions, where understanding and misunderstanding, willingness and ability, dilemmas, and feelings all closely intersect.
In short, through this website we want to share our own experiences. We hope it will serve as a lifeline for couples who find themselves unexpectedly in turbulent waters, when familiar certainties disappear and the pillars supporting their marriage seem to have been swept away.
This isn’t a website you can skim through on your phone in between other tasks. The subject matter is too profound, too multifaceted, and often still too unfamiliar for that. We invite you to take your time, read, reflect, and engage in conversation together.
Mixed Orientation Marriage
We are stepping “outside the box” of one-sided cultural thinking—which assumes that a marriage in this situation is inevitably doomed to fail or can only survive within an open relationship.
We want to offer a different perspective.
We believe that sexual orientation is not the top priority; rather, it is a choice in which feelings, identity, or personal worth are neither denied nor undermined.
It is precisely within this tension—which is a reality—that there is a path of love, faithfulness, and hope.
This site aims to tell a different but positive story, to support couples with similar challenges who face a lot of confusion. Moving forward together, staying true to one another, and growing again towards unity in which, and because, you can both be who you are.