so,WHY this site?
a you + a me = being together
In recent years, we have increasingly come to the conclusion that there is little information available for people facing such challenges within their marriage. This is even more pronounced when it comes to positive and constructive information for couples who, despite the different sexual orientation of one of the partners, consciously choose to continue their journey together.
According to some estimates, the survival rate of a Mixed-Orientation Marriage (MOM) is not particularly high, less than 20%. However, when individuals seeking information are only exposed to unilaterally negative stories, experiences, and statistics and are led to accept them as inevitable, it also functions partly as a self-fulfilling prophecy.
That's why we want to tell a different story because:1
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Both partners already have a tough time navigating the challenges their marriage faces after the 'coming-out.'
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The abundance of information on the internet encountered in searches is often extraordinarily negative and one-sided.
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There is another perspective that goes beyond what cultural thinking (almost) dictates.
MOM means :
Mixed Orientation Marriage
Both individuals have their own feelings, preferences, obstacles, shortcomings, and disappointments.
It's not just about dealing with the same-sex sexual preference but also encompasses the emotions, obstacles, disappointments, and choices of the heterosexual partner. This aspect is often overlooked.
God is conveniently used for personal convenience
Irrespective of your stance on the issue, there exists a diversity of interpretations and scripts
being used, which can feel as though you can wander in various directions.
Here are some persistent clichés and labels:
No, we do not want to just tell you how it should be done, but rather share our direct experience in a MOM for your consideration. In a MOM, a marital relationship where both partners equally value each other's worth, interests, and feelings. Not just a "living together but living apart" situation. A place where intimacy and sexuality are also present.
It will come as no surprise that this goes against current culture labels and opinion. A monogamous MOM, a marital relationship where both partners want to be and commit to, even if they do not share the same sexual orientation.
Our situation is not unique, but it is our story. We want to share it to help others.
Sharing experiences, finding understanding, and being taken seriously often means, for another person: recognizing that you are not alone, finding recognition in the struggle you're going through, and accepting that you are not alone.
Perhaps you'll find some points of connection in our story that can be helpful.